MKE Week 15 – Downregulating the Nervous System

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Thought has momentum. Once impressed upon the subconscious, it seeks expression, and that the outer world eventually rearranges itself to make room for what we hold consistently within.

Everything is energy, and in our basic science class decades ago we all learned that energy can be neither created nor destroyed, only changed. Thought is energy in spirit form which changes, manifests, into physical form.

All thought, good and bad. Its logical, and being in the health field for decades and working with people on their emotions as most dis-ease has an emotional root as a cause, it is somehow still stretching my understanding of cause and effect.

We’re conditioned to believe reality moves first and thought responds second. And of course we might move into action that changes reality, but I’m really questioning that if on every level, not just some, but in every case, what if the inner state is the initiator and the outer world follows its lead?

If that’s true, and I have not been living that way, then much of my life has been spent reacting to the thoughts, intentions, and focused desires of others – essentially participating in someone else’s manifestation.

Not as a victim, but as someone who used current circumstances as the only canvas available, instead of starting from a blank one, as Haanel implies is possible.

I’ve seen this in some cases, I’ve realized the games in the environment but it seemed they were such a huge machine there would be no bending those but just bending my reality within that world.

So much more is possible, but it’s a realm I remain open and curious to at this time, not writing about it. Yet.

What also stands out is the notion of persistence without strain. Most of my life has been shaped by effort – pushing, striving, working harder. It’s the hustle and grind culture.

Which makes sense if I’ve been pushing against someone else’s creation instead of building my own. The task isn’t to overpower their dream; it’s to stop playing their game and begin creating mine.

Modern teachers like Abraham-Hicks, David Bayer, and Tony Robbins echo the same principle: we must become the person we want to be and operate from a powerful state, not one of fear or reaction.

Recognize the patterns, predict the patterns, and eventually create the patterns so others follow us, not the other way around. It reframes coincidence entirely. Be the person now that we want to become. Embody the physical state, in every cell of my nervous system.

This points to a different kind of strength: holding an inner direction steadily enough that the world reflects it. Not through force, but through coherence.

The opposite of what our education system and culture reward, which is of course working harder, getting up earlier, pushing longer, and manipulating external conditions with endless tools and tactics. And if that doesn’t work, bribery. Its not a system worth living in or propagating.

There’s humility in acknowledging that I don’t control timing or form. My responsibility is the thought – with total clarity, consistency, and alignment. The rest unfolds as it will, starting with how my nervous system will downregulate in feeling, knowing this safety is real and sustainable.

If that’s true, the question becomes less “What should I do?” and more “What am I broadcasting?” and “Who am I being?” in each moment. Even now, as I write this — am I fearful? Or am I an all-powerful creator? My nervous system never lies. It is the ultimate lie-detector.

My challenge is believing in order to see. The future is simply the delayed echo of present thought. Empowering, but also sobering, because I have decades of reinforced neural pathways to unlearn, relearn, and practice.

I don’t see it, therefore I don’t believe it, which can generate fear or anxiety, engaging in a primal, reactive state, the exact opposite of what is required to generate the change I desire. So of course, I don’t see it.

Another focus this week was looking for kindness. That comes naturally to me; as a Yellow, I tend to be optimistic and good at lifting the mood of others. Sometimes to the point of exhaustion, as if I am holding everyone else up.

I believe in the goodness of people and we get more of what we focus on. But it can be exhausting to be the cheerleader all the time. Self-care is something to observe and manage within myself – coming back again to nervous system regulation.

It has been a relief to practice letting go of that responsibility, to relax, soften, and allow kindness to be mutual instead of managed. Like gratitude, this is an easy, effortless gateway of entry to feeling good.

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  • Deanne, this really resonated. Letting go of the responsibility to be the constant cheerleader is such a relief. Here’s to more effortless kindness and regulated energy! 🌟🙏

  • Deanne, your joy and energy shine through here. Thank you for sharing your challenges and your persistence. I loved how you spoke about self-care and having an attitude of gratitude.

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