I had already gone through my notes and journaled about week 7… I was about to write a blog but glanced again at the notes, the slides from the week’s lesson and something jumped out at me.
It was the idea or notion that our future self is currently a stranger – and that part of this work we are doing every day is turning that stranger into an intimate friend that I love, honor and respect.
Sounds to me like wedding vows, till death do us part.
What if I were to say basically wedding vow to myself in the mirror? How would that change what I do and say to myself?
I wasn’t at all familiar with how wedding vows came to be, but a quick search revealed at the core, wedding vows emerged not just as ritual words, but as public declarations of intention, fidelity, and shared purpose.
Over time, those words became meaningful precisely because they commit the speaker to a vision of who they will be and how they will act.
Which is exactly what I’m working on in myself. I’m committing to a future version of myself of who I will be and how I will act.
I, Deanne, take myself, to be my partner in life,
to have and to hold from this day forward,
for better for worse,
for richer for poorer,
in sickness and in health,
to love, cherish, and to obey,
till death us do part,
In the spirit of changing the scrolls to present day, as well as shifting words to what we want and not simply what we don’t want, I’m working on re-writing my own vows. And it is truly until death.
I’ve spent years studying wellness, mindset, behavior change, energy, and human potential, but this journey is showing me how hard and thick my cement is. True mastery comes from living what I know moment by moment; not reacting to life, but generating it from within.
Be the change we wish to see in the world – be the change I see my future self as. Now. Not when I finally get xx or achieve yy….. Again, this is not new information – I’ve had the book knowledge for decades, but transformation, the application of it on such a regular consistent basis makes such a difference.
R2A2. Recognize >> Relate >> Assimilate >> Apply.
In every day, not just when its convenient.
Deanne, I loved your bright take on making a deep promise with yourself. The commitment you made to your finest self. Your playful yet strong vibe lifted my mood today. Thank you for sharing.
The metaphor of wedding vows to your future self is brilliant, Deanne. It shifts the work from self-improvement to a devoted relationship. “True mastery comes from living what I know moment by moment” — that’s the core of it. Thank you for this beautiful reframe.