MKE Week 3 – Choosing Ease
Week 3 has been important and the beginning of what I’m claiming is a new normal.
I moved to a new state!
For almost the first time in my life, aside from a few years in or adjacent to college, I’m living more than 5 miles from where I was born and raised.
My parents were also born and raised in my hometown, so it’s a big deal that this DC woman has chosen to put down new roots several states away.
I’ve been feeling restless about being in DC for a while, and definitely was ready to leave the home where I was renting space.
A year ago, this move wasn’t on the horizon, although I often said if I ever left DC, I could see living in the Carolinas and lo and behold, that’s where I’ve landed. Durham, NC, to be exact.
Moving has typically not been one of the things I’ve enjoyed. Nor has been figuring out what creating home means for me.
This move is significant in many ways because I got to choose and create a different experience for myself about the move itself, and I have two rooms that I can do whatever I desire with.
I especially love it that I have an office/working space completely separate from my bedroom. That’s a first in nearly 9 years. Clearly, I was complete with confining myself.
I’m happy to say I’m choosing to take my time as I figure out how these two rooms will be. To see what feels good and to allow myself the space to let it all unfold.
I did the same with the move. I started packing several weeks before, got help for the process and hired a mover to bring the bulk of my things from DC to Durham.
There were days when I did almost nothing, despite knowing it would have served me to be more efficient and to make specific progress on the move. While I wanted it to look different, it didn’t, and I got okay with that.
Ideally, I would have completed everything by Tuesday, so I could be 100% ready. I didn’t.
I figured out at some point during the weekend before that the vehicle that would be bringing my things down here wasn’t big enough to fit everything, and I’d need to make another trip. Once I had that awareness, I shifted my focus to prioritizing what needed to happen to make this trip make sense.
I’m happy to say I had the good sense on Tuesday during the drive down to stop a couple of times and rest because I was exhausted. I’m also pleased to say I’ve let myself be okay with getting done what I got done since I’ve been here.
There were multiple times I had thoughts about unpacking more and about figuring out what kind of bed I’m going to buy – which is a whole thing by itself and will likely turn into a post of its own.
In the end, I gave myself grace. I mostly kept on top of my GS readings, I got on most of the calls I was scheduled for during the week, and I let myself be still, which isn’t something I’ve consciously allowed enough of in a very long time.
Part of the move here, and to this home specifically, is this place calls me to a level of rest I mostly haven’t allowed in far too long. I am leaning into this opportunity to rewire my nervous system.
To know that it really is very good to operate from a rested and centered place. To be in the flow. To be in alignment with ease and elegance.
I am beyond cognizant of the fact that all of this came during the week preceding the “100%” week in MKE., and I’m excitedly embracing being 100% all in.
I look forward to making the latest revisions on my DMP and to allowing it to serve me as I progress through the next phase of MKE.
More than anything, I am embracing being in the flow of giving and receiving and being available to all that’s available in, as and through me as I experience and express this next chapter.
Mahalo!!



“So happy to know you’ve arrived safely! I love seeing you embrace this new chapter so fully. Cheering you on as you embark on this exciting adventure—can’t wait to see what unfolds for you!”
Candice, I valued your joyful reminder to give yourself time to align with ease and elegance. Congratulations on your new home.
I love your post, I can feel the ease and grace within you and how you just flowed into your move, the change, the allowing yourself to just be, to give and receive and knowing when you needed to rest. You seem to know intuitively how to find your Center. May you have peace and joy in your new home!
I’m glad you made it safely to your new home. It’s wonderful how you have embraced this new journey and have given yourself permission to go 100% all in. It is going to be a fun adventure watching you on your path.
The move, the location, your new home place…. this sounds like a place that you are meant to be.
Coming before the 100% week shows how all things are harmoniously tied together!
Your journey continues.
Thank you for sharing your part of the universe with us.
Excellent blog post, Candas! You were kind to yourself and life is good!